For many couples, writing wedding vows is one of the most meaningful — and sometimes intimidating — parts of planning their ceremony.
You may know exactly how you feel about your partner, but putting those feelings into words can feel surprisingly difficult.
Many people sit down to write their vows and quickly realise they’re wondering:
"What are wedding vows actually supposed to sound like?”
The reassuring thing to know is that vows don’t need to sound like poetry or perfectly crafted speeches.
They simply need to sound like you.
Looking at a few examples can often help couples find their own voice and feel more confident about what they want to say.
Some couples prefer vows that are simple and direct.
Short vows can feel sincere, natural, and easy to share during the ceremony.
Example:
“I promise to stand beside you through every chapter of life.
To support your dreams, laugh with you often, and face whatever comes our way together.
I choose you today and always.”
Another example:
“I promise to walk beside you with kindness, patience, and love.
To celebrate the good days and support you through the difficult ones.
Today I promise to be your partner in everything life brings.”
Short vows often feel powerful because they focus on the most important promises.
Some couples prefer vows that reflect the emotional journey of their relationship.
Example:
“From the moment we met, something in my life quietly shifted.
You’ve shown me what it means to feel truly supported and understood.
I promise to love you with patience, honesty, and kindness, and to build a life together that feels full of laughter and warmth.”
Another example:
“You are the person I choose, not only today but for every tomorrow.
I promise to grow with you, to listen, to support your dreams, and to love you through every chapter of our lives together.”
Romantic vows often reflect both the past you’ve shared and the future you’re promising to build together.
Many couples like to include a little warmth or humour in their vows.
This helps the moment feel relaxed and genuine.
Example:
“I promise to support your dreams, celebrate your victories, and stand beside you through whatever life brings.
I also promise to always share the last slice of pizza… although we may need to negotiate that one.”
Another example:
“I promise to keep laughing with you, even on the days when life feels chaotic.
To remind you how loved you are, and to always be your partner in adventure — wherever life takes us.”
Light hearted vows often help the ceremony feel personal and authentic.
Reading vow examples can help you get started, but your vows should ultimately reflect your own relationship.
Many couples find it helpful to include:
• a brief reflection on how they met
• what they admire about their partner
• a few sincere promises
• a simple closing line
This structure helps vows feel natural rather than overwhelming.
If you're beginning to write your vows and would like a little more guidance, I’ve created a simple Wedding Vow Writing Guide for couples.
It includes:
• a step-by-step vow structure
• helpful prompts to get started
• additional vow examples
• tips to help you feel confident sharing your vows
→ Download the Wedding Vow Writing Guide
Sometimes a few gentle prompts can make the whole process feel much easier.
It’s very common for couples to feel nervous about writing vows.
But the most memorable vows are rarely the most polished ones.
They’re the ones that feel sincere.
Guests aren’t listening for perfect speeches — they’re listening for the meaning behind the words.
When your vows reflect your relationship honestly, they often become one of the most beautiful moments of the ceremony.
As a celebrant, one of the things I love most is helping couples shape vows that feel natural and comfortable for them.
Sometimes a small amount of guidance can make the whole process feel far less daunting.
If you're beginning to think about your ceremony and your vows, you're always welcome to get in touch for a relaxed conversation.
Most wedding vows last around one to two minutes, which is typically between 120 and 200 words.
They don’t need to be identical, but keeping them roughly similar in length helps the ceremony feel balanced.
No. Some couples prefer traditional vows, while others write their own or combine traditional wording with personal reflections.
Many people feel nervous. Practising your vows aloud beforehand can help you feel more comfortable on the day.
Yes. Many celebrants guide couples through writing vows so they feel natural and meaningful.
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