A funeral or memorial ceremony offers a way to honour a life that has been lived — thoughtfully, respectfully, and with care for those left behind.
When someone dies, there is often a lot to think about, and very little energy to think it through. My role as a celebrant is to support you during this time, and to help shape a ceremony that reflects the person you are remembering, without pressure or expectation.
Each ceremony is created individually. Together, we’ll talk about the life of your loved one — the things that mattered to them, the people they loved, the moments that shaped them. This may include stories, music, poetry, readings, or prayers, or it may be simple and quiet. There is no right way — only what feels appropriate for you and your family.
Some ceremonies include religious elements; others do not. Some families wish to be closely involved; others prefer me to lead the service on their behalf. I can gently guide whichever approach feels right.
Often, your funeral director will make the initial contact with me, and I’ll confirm the practical details with them. I’ll then be in touch to arrange a time to meet you — usually in your home, or somewhere else that feels comfortable and manageable.
That meeting is simply a conversation. You don’t need to prepare anything perfectly. If others would like to share memories but can’t attend, they’re welcome to write things down or email me — we’ll work in whatever way feels easiest.
I approach every family with professionalism, sensitivity, and care. If it’s helpful, I may ask to record part of our conversation to ensure I capture details accurately. Any recordings are deleted once the ceremony has been finalised.
On the day of the service, I’ll arrive in good time, greet you at the venue, and lead the ceremony with calm presence and dignity — holding the space so you don’t have to.
If, at a later date, you wish to mark the scattering or interment of ashes with a short ceremony, I can also support you with this. This can be discussed whenever you feel ready.
Above all, my role is to make sure you feel supported — not rushed, not overwhelmed, and not alone — during a very difficult time.